DEBBIE
DAVIS
NEW
HOUSEMATE
MOVED
IN NOVEMBER 18, 2014
DEBBIE'S
COMPLAINTS AS OF NOVEMBER
22, 2014
All
I want to do is my work, all Debbie wants is to relieve her boredom
and fear of health problems by creating endless trouble.
I
have been turning out lights for decades and no one ever started
shouting out me or accused me of making
them bump her shoulder so
there was a huge bruise as she keeps repeating to RCs at med
monitoring, which of the two times that I briefly turned out the
light did she run into the door jamb(??) or wall and bruised her
shoulder???
Debbie
told Melissa that she bumped the middle of her chest when I turned
out light and Melissa said she didn't see how that was possible.
The
light in the hallway just woke me up.
Debbie
just complained vociferously that I turned off the hall light.
The
previous day when I turned off the hall light when Debbie was going
back and forth between the bathroom and her room, the light woke me
up in the evening, my bedroom door is about 2 inches from the floor
but the light also comes though the cracks on the side and top of the
door and even when I turn away from the door the light reflects so
much on the wall that it is like the sunshine coming in.
The
light does not bother me during daylight hours because of the light
coming through the window.
When
I turned off the light last night, Debbie said in a firm, unfriendly
LOUD voice the she was using the light and that she did not want to
fall down the stairs, I turned the light back on explained the
situation with the door and asked her to turn off the light at the
bottom of the stairs and on again when she came back up, she
said she did not need it, was not going downstairs at that time. and
went from the bathroom to her room. And at that time did not go
downstairs.
This
is a townhouse and the hallway is very, very short and the lamps in
Debbie's room and the bathroom lights are very bright.
Tonight,
around 10pm, the hall light woke me up and contrary to previous days
and nights Debbie's bedroom door was open and she was reading on the
bed. I went downstairs to make some tea and turned off the
hall/stairway light which had been on for at least 20 minutes off.
Debbie shouted from upstairs that she was not finished with the
light??? she ran down most of the steps but did not come all the way
down, and said all I needed to do was to put a blanket at the bottom
of the door, I explained about the crack at the top of the door and
the sides. (If
the door fits too close it is very hard to open it)
Debbie
did not comment and ran back up the stairs and left the light on for
about 30 more minutes, never came all the way downstairs. I made
some food and then went down to the basement to work on my computer.
Debbie
has had hundreds of complaints about this townhouse and the pans in
the kitchen and other things, she has so very many complaints it
seems like she is really irritated about something else and needs to
deal with her real issues and not make everyone so miserable with
complaints every hour, some seem accurate others seem very petty.
Arbitration
is needed with
David,
then Keith
Ellis,
then Dept
of Mental Health,
when you live with other people you need to make accomedations and
not believe that Debbie's word is law. Debbie does not work, do
volunteer work or have any hobbies or want to go to the Cornerstone
Lifeskills Day Program.
Debbie
needs to write down her hundreds of complaints and stand by them,
maybe she will see how unreasonable she is being, Shatara could help
her write down her many complaints and suggest better uses for
Debbie's time.
This
is a home not a museum. Dept of Mental Health needs to determine from
a written list of complaints which are legitimate and which are
because Debbie is bored and needs some useful activities for her
extra time.
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Debbie
said last night that she wanted to turn my basement workroom/art
studio into a bedroom for herself. Really pushing it.
pressing
someones buttons yanking theirr chain getting their goat
When
the enemy comes in like a flood, the Lord Jesus will lift up a
standard against them. Thank you Lord Jesus
for Debbie's time with her family, help her to calm down and make an
effort to be healed.
Wait
until Debbie goes after Melissa Willard for putting chicken blood on
the floor and makes a neverending drama out of it. Waiting to gather
enough "evidence"
against
Melissa to go after her. Because I was kind and welcoming and
ignored her insults and orders thinking it was hard to move to a new
place, Debbie decided to go after me first.
Debbie
is barely biding her time until she goes after Melissa. Melissa
Willard told her dad who told Bonnie that the new person didn't like
Linda, last Sunday morning at church Melissa's dad told Bonnie.,
Debbie has been planning dramas and would play them for all they are
worth
no matter who was here.
Debbie
would be playing the same or similar dramas trying to catch
housemates out for nothing and lying and exaggerating no matter who
her housemates were and she must play the same dramas with her
family, Debbie is so skilled at accusation over nothing.
Bonnie
said if they put you on more medication how will you have enough
strength, stay awake long enough to do your artwork, apparently Keith
Ellis had told Melissa Willard that they planned to put me on more
medication instead of trying to fix what is wrong -- someone said at
FDA that another agency had the logo of a leaky faucet. Has Keith
been telling Melissa Willard inappropriate things about me, her
housemate?
rusty
pans, pushing the pans into my face screaming at me how she was
expected to cook and eat food after cooking in pans like we have, I
told her that I was a client not an Rehab Counselor and that she
should ask Keith Ellis or an RC.
giving
into her, screamed at David, Debbie said, David said nothing but
later the next day there were three new pans on the table.
Staff
needs to stop feeding into Debbies dramas and call them for what they
are attention seeking devices
no
one has the time to
calm her down or
fight with her 24 hours a day,
Debbie
needs some activity or to develop some skill to keep her occupied and
to have something to be proud of so she doesn't try to be important
by tearing down her housemates and calling bel pre staff 10 times a
day to complain about nothing.
certain
people in group homes who have nothing to do except honing their
skills in breaking other people down over nothing, troublemakers
Cornerstone
needs
to find a way of dealing with them so they don't create such
agitation that those who want to work are stymied by constant stupid
dramas over nothing.
Debbie
CAME IN THE FIRST HOUR SHE CAME LIKE A FLOOD OR A HURICANE OR A
WHIRLWIND OR AN INSPECTOR - Complaining about everything in a loud
voice, traumatizing to have a new housemate unexpectedly inspect the
house screaming about how bad everything was. None of the usual
pleasantries.
I
WAS NOT BORN TO BE DEBBIE DAVIS' SLAVE within an hour or so of her
walking in the door for the first time Debbie Davis ordered me to
wipe down the counters which were fairly clean seeing just how much
she could get away with shoving the pans in my face yakking and
yakking that she would get sick from the rust and the teflon that was
scraped off I said I don't have any money either I can't replace
them, you need to talk to the RCs or the supervisor about it kept on
inspecting room after room and talking
endlessly about how nice the four bedroom was at Braddock road for
three days basically telling us we lived in a dump -
why
was Debbie alone in a four bedroom for so long, Idon't
believe all three of her housemates were kicked out for smoking weed
or doing other drugs as she said did they leave to get away from her
harrassment and lies and shouting on the phone
Wet
oil paint Debbie could tell I have been doing artwork, burst out that
I
don't do anything but sleep downstairs
Keith's
nonsensical response - with my work all around was tracing a good
drawing I had done to paint it with magic markers and my previous oil
paintings were drying.
Complained
about my coughing, Debbie shouts into her cell phone in the kitchen I
can hear her downstairs and through the walls of my room, my
job coach today Nov 26 was very startled when Debbie started shouting
into her cell phone and
Vanessa looked scared and asked me how old Debbie was and how
many people were upstairs. I told Vanessa, only one, Debbie, who
sounds like a whole crowd when
she is shouting into her cellphone. I had told Vanessa earlier that
my new housemate was upstairs and we could hear her moving around so
Vanessa was extremely
startled by the sudden shouting even
though she knew there was someone upstairs.
Just
before Vanessa Martinez left, Debbie came downstairs, stopped 3 steps
up, there was an unnerving silence so I graciously introduced my job
coach to her and Debbie to my job coach.
Keith
said in housemeeting Monday that when someone new came people needed
to be accomadating but the
only things he mentioned had to do with Melissa and I changing not
Debbie's extreme rudeness shouting lying to make a small nothing
issue
gain her the sympathy and defense of RCs at my expense over lies.
Just
realized when I told Keith as I had told the other RCs at meds that I
would never turn out another light that I did not turn on and that
Debbie was making a huge continuing drama from my turning off the
hall/stairway light TWICE. then Debbie told her BIG LIE that it had
happened multiple times.
Before
when I said twice to the RCs Debbie seemed to agree but learned she
could not get endless mileage sympathy chance to perform her drama
about her bruised shoulder and the mere possibility that she could
have fallen down the stairs with
the truth that I turned out light twice so
she decided to up the ante, create a fish story of catching a minnow
which then became bigger with each telling until it became a whale.
She stated to Keith that she thought that I had turned off the hall
light multiple times.
The
Rehab Counselor supervisor needs to put a stop to this exploitation
of housemates for attention from RCs and call her on her dramas so
that people who want to create something useful are not dragged down
by being afraid of even turning out a light in their own home from
the self-agradizing endless drama that Debbie will make of it.
I
brought in my Bible from the kitchen and swore
that I turned the lights of twice not ongoing and
asked Debbie to swear to her statement that I was continuing to turn
of the hall/stairway light multiple times and
that I was running upstairs repeatedly to turn off the light
hall/upstairs from the basement where I was working on my computer
and
painting, Debbie would not and Keith told me to put the Bible away.
Debbie
said she couldn't figure out why I kept running up from the basement
to turn off the light at the mid-level. I only come upstairs to make
tea or food, and turned out the light once when it had been on for
hours, everytime I came up. I had said to several RCs that Debbie
played her drama too AT MED MEETINGS that I would never again turn
off a light that I had not turned on but Debbie kept playing it for
more than it was worth to be the center of attention and to have a
chance to use the interest of the RCs in a drama concerning me to go
on and on about her physical problems which I am not responsible for.
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When
Nicole came, Debbie had been calmer and friendly when she came back
from her 4 or 5 day Thanksgiving visit to her family and I was hoping
it would last, I want to live in peace to do my work and thought her
extreme rudeness and gameplaying might be due to moving to a new
place and her worry over her physical problems.
December
12, 2014
Debbie
Davis IS an invasion of privacy. Like
having a toddler following you all day saying, "Look
at me. Pay attention to me." Debbie
does not know how to have a conversation only a superfast, loud
monologue which wears me out but I thought she might calm down and I
did not want her telling lies about me again, so I tried, as I did at
the beginning, to be friendly and helpful.
I
was ambushed at 8:30 this morning by Debbie backed up by Keith who
said that both housemates had called him the day before about the
dishes I left in the sink. I have always done the dishes in the
dishwasher at least once a day. I had emptied the clean dishes the
night before and was feeling too ill to load the few dishes in the
sink and counter. I had set my alarm for 9:05 because I thought that
the RCs were going to start coming on time again at 9:30am. I was
half-asleep and after being screamed at by Debbie backed up by Keith
and I was not allowed to talk or say more than two sentences while
Debbie was screaming and harranging me so I walked away from the
table. I do not have to sit at the table during medication and be
abused. Keith forgot to give me my meds before he left so he sent
Meghan a little bit later. Debbie MUST NOT be allowed to ambush me
this way again but to mention these things at
housemeeting in
a respectful way and allow me time to respond.
My
heart was pounding and I had a severe panic attack after being
screamed at over a few dishes in the sink which Debbie managed to
sound like I was the enemy of humanity.
She has been trying to turn me against Melissa by the things she
says against her and Melissa has stated that she is afraid of Debbie,
was glad when it looked like Debbie would not return from her last
visit home and Melissa Willard stated that Debbie had been giving her
a hard time about not washing the chicken before cooking and some
other criticisms of Melissa. Has Debbie been entering Melissa's room
without an invitation and blocking Melissa's doorway so that she
cannot get out.
The
St. Lukes RIGHTS AND RESPONSIBILITIES specifically mentioned blocking
common access areas Debbie often blocks the kitchen by keeping the
refrigerator door all the way opened and a shopping bag covering the
rest of the entrance.
Debbie
is supposed to bring these things up at housemeeting but she has
stated a number of times in the past week or so that she does not
like David. The housemeeting before last, David
tried to do a fire alarm rehersal,
Debbie kept saying it was stupid and she was not going to do it so
David asked me what should be done and we did not have the dry run
FIRE DRILL because of Debbie's objection.
December
22 Vanessa Martinez my job coach told me today that when she called
to leave me a message to talk to me that Debbie told her she wasn't
speaking to me. Debbie increasing her unrelenting hate to blocking
messages from my Vocational Rehabilitation Counselor and is
inappropriately complaining about me to my job coach.
SOMEONE
NEEDS TO TELL DEBBIE THAT VOC REHAB WHICH PAYS VANNESSA'S SALARY IS
SEPARATE FROM CORNERSTONE --MY
VOC REHAB COUNSELOR IS NOT TO BE HARRASSED BY DEBBIES BOGUS
COMPLAINTS ABOUT
ME. I WILL BE TELLING MARGARET MOELLER IN OUR MEETING IN JANUARY TO
RENEW MY CONTRACT FOR VANESSA'S SALARY THAT CORNERSTONE BEL PRE IS
ALLOWING MASSIVE HARRASSMENT OF WORKING CLIENTS BY DEBBIE DAVIS.
stolen
fork.
why
doesn't Debbie find some work or hobbies to interest her instead of
being a hate-filled troublemaker?
many
opportunities at Life
Skills day hospitalization or
since she is always complaining about having no money, a job coach to
help her identify her interests and develop them other than finding
ridiculous ways like a housemate turning off the light twice to
declare all out war on their housemates. trying to turn one
housemate against the other. bored as she said mischief maker
I
have work that fascinates me and might be a blessing to others and
Debbie is wasting the job coach time and the money spent for
Vanessa's time with me by causing constant upset and trouble over
nothing
why
RCs always drawing Debbie aside said Melissa early on
DH
Lawrence had the habit of taking the outside mannerisms of his
friends in his novels and then putting an ectoplasm of his own making
as their personalities often unflattering which did not please his
former friends. Debbie also has this knack of making her own
characters out of housemates.
Melissa
Willard has not asked for an Rehab Counselor to stay an extra 15
minutes with her for a long time.
One
thing Debbie was right about was when she told Meghan at meds that
Meghan was the only RC to show an interest that the rest couldn't
wait to get out of here, was true before Debbie came and Keith, Ana
and others spent a year, Ana still does, spending most of the
medication "visits"
playing
with their cellphones. Two weeks ago I got tired of watching ana
play with her cellphone and asked her if our "visit" had
started yet.
Debbie's
bedroom door open --flush with wall --bright lights on in her room
It
really is a very big sin that Debbie is doing and RCs encouraging to
prevent someone from doing the work God gave them to do by stealing
their time, reputation and peace of mind for
dramas to distract Debbie from her boredom, fear of physical illness
and misinterprets panic attacks as a reason to attack others like the
chicken grease which she did not notice for 2 weeks then all of a
sudden one evening gets hysterical and blames me shouting at me
although I told her I do not eat or buy any meat.
not
interested in solutions but dramas needs to write down her complaints
against me and I will answer in writing which will make her think
about what she is complaining about how petty and to think about the
drama she wants so badly that she will lie and exaggerate and make
everybodies life miserable and interrupt their work constantly
instead of using the things provided by cornerstone like the many
lifeskill classes so that she will not be so bored or worried about
her health and can do some self-soothing instead of relying on
bothering other people with work to do 24/7
I
am a housemate not a 24 hour Rehab Counselor or therapist needs to
read the rights and responsibilities in treating housemates with
dignity and respect and not making impossible emotional demands on
them\
Hurricane
Debbie and the devastation she leaves in her wake Margaret Moeller
and costing Voc Rehab much money by constantly disturbing clients
efforts to make something of themself and do useful work.
for
every three minutes Debbie or Keith talks I get three minutes of
uninterrupted time to talk so they will know what the situation
really is and to therefore based on enough information from both
sides can try to work out solutions, I will leave the table if I am
not given ANY time to speak without interruptions every two seconds
like pinball machine wastes times and effort and I will not listen to
any more monologues where I am given no time to speak and respond.
Keith
Ellis needs to send the letter about smoking out back when he first
told me about this new "law" and I will check with Peggy
Wyss, Gino and Eugene to see that they have received this letter
about no smoking on the back porch and that this new rule spoken of
by Keith is agency wide and not just one of Debbies whims and
attempts to be the tyrant of the household. Who made this law, is it
agency wide applying to all the residences or is this new law or rule
just apply me and Banquo Terrace??? The leaves have been removed
which was Keith's first reason for the law and now he said that noone
can use the back porch/deck because of fear of someone flicking
cigarette over the balcony. I have never flicked my cigarette
anywhere but always use the ashtray outside.
no
gossiping or complaints about me to my job coach someone maybe dr
parveen or margaret moeller or Keith or Vanessa's supervisor needs to
explain the relationship of cornerstone with voc rehab and to hold
Debbie accountible for destroying the peace of mind and ability to
function of those who have been laying the groundwork to have a
career Debbie needs something to keep her from the boredom she so
often mentioned but she will not try anything
the
old saying IDLE HANDS ARE THE DEVILS WORKSHOP applies here
In
a word, Debbie is a classic TROUBLEMAKER and Cornerstone needs to
take some responsiblity to protect client victims of troublemakers by
having a strategy for dealing with troublemaking.
Will
ask HUD for a replacement RIGHTS AND RESPONSIBILITIES and GRIEVANCE
POLICY and write a grievance about Debbie Davis AND Cornerstone
management for allowing this harassment to go on for so long and not
telling troublemaker clients that harrassing their housemates is as
bad as doing drugs and that they will be suspended or outed for
continuing after strong warning to stop.
I
put alot of effort into my relationship with Melissa Willard and it
helps that she has work to do I put the same effort and more into
trying to have a peaceful relationship with beth and gerda but it did
not work because they preferred to stay around the house and relieve
their boredom by harrassing me, trying to pick fights this boredom
and refusal to find some useful work, volunteer or paid or laying the
foundation in the job coach program, or learning crafts, cooking or
recovery groups which Debbie refuses like beth and gerda make for
idle hands and dramas and destroying other peoples efforts like
kicking over someone sand castle or other destructive act, using a
hammer on Michaelangelo's Pieta or throwing ink on a Renoir painting
and then saying you are as great as these artists because it only
took you a few seconds to destroy someones work of years
the
man, Sirhan Sirhan, who shot and killed robert kennedy said all of
kennedy's accomplishments accrued to him because he was greater than
robert kennedy because he took his life -- this type of sick thinking
which is prevalant among SOME clients needs
to be addressed by cornerstone management
to protect those
clients who are trying to make something of their lives
Debbie
has only been here a month aand has caused so much upset trying to
turn my housemate Melissa Willard and I against each other if Debbie
thinks she is sick of cleaning up after other people and she said it
2 weeks ago at housemeeting how do you think I feel after months of
doing everyone elses work including beth's refusal to do her chores
for years and
doing inspection cleaning essentially alone cleaning
up betty's clutter among other things without a mop or cleaning
supplies until the day before inspection. and Keith and the RCs
continue to look at me to clean the whole house and do not
investigate Debbie's claims or her strange way of wild, wild cleaning
and her wild behavior and accusatory behavior that makes other
clients depressed and unable to function and Debbie even refusing to
put money into household supplies so that we have not had paper
towels for the past month, and the garbage bags are about to go out
anna and other RCs saying negotiate with Debbie for who buys the
supplies only would allow Debbie to make another messy psycho drama
listing all her physical complaints and grudges against housemates
that have accrued in ONE MONTH - negotiating with Debbie over buying
necessary house supplies would be even more traumatizing for her
housemates and stopping this destructive drama and attention seeking
behavior IS THE RESPONSIBILITY OF STAFF AND MANAGEMENT AND A WILD,
MANIC PHASE CLIENT SHOULD
NOT BE HOUSEMATES RESPONSIBILTY TO
CALM HER DOWN AND BE ESSENTIALLY A 24 HOUR STAFF FOR SOMEONE WHO
NEEDS 24 HOUR CARE AT FENTON HOUSE.
I
am not trained as staff nor
have the
authority of staff to insist that Debbie not abuse and harrass her
housemates and
stop slaming crashing and shouting into cellphone even interrupting
my time one hour a week with job coach by shouting so loud upstairs
that Vanessa and I cannot concentrate andDebbies refusal to take a
phone message by telling ,my job coach that she, Debbie, was not
talking to me was beyond the pale. someone needs to teach Debbie how
to answer the phone and take messages and how to clean and basic,
basic courtesy or at least not the abuse of housemates that Debbie
has shown from the first minute she walked in the door.
Debbie
stealing my mother's fork waving it around while she cooked before
she hid it again and most likely took it home with her again.
unbelievable arrogance constantly
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Call
HUD to replace the RIGHTS AND RESPONSIBILITIES AND HUD GRIEVANCE
POLICY that Beth Vonieff took down and hid and Keith and David refuse
to replace.
Dec
27
Told
Keith that I would not try to communicate with him again but ask my
therapist Paula Weiss to translatesince I am never allowed to talk
for more than 3 seconds without interruptions.
Even after this statement Keith continued to interrupt me after less
than a sentence for about 15 to 20 minutes and I will never again
listen to monologues where
I am not allowed to speak and am suffering from being hounded by
Keith to go to Eric's class and received no support afterwards, Betty
Levy's being so abused and her health neglected that I called Adult
Protective Services and Betty was hospitalized the next day, being
bullied into cleaning Betty's immense clutter and essentially doing
the work for house inspection alone which seriously impacted my
mental and physical health, Keith hounding me about my smoking and
refusing to listen to me equating Debbie's calling 10 times a day and
lying to having such a knowledge of what is happening that he can
interrupt me after 2 or 3 word again and again and again and again.
Everyone
needs to work on their listening skills.
Keith
Ellis, Bel Pre Supervisor cannot solve a problem if don't know what
the problem is,
the nasty thing that Debbie has been CURRENTLY doing that she did not
do at first is for 2 weeks or so she leaves her door open with the
light on and the door is so wide open it is flush with the wall, this
disturbs my sleep, and when Debbie does go to sleep and turns off the
light she closes her door. I do not care if her door is open or shut
as long as the light is not on or only for a few minutes when she
goes to the bathroom, she sometimes slams her door shut at night
which wakes me up. Debbie had not been using the hall light to get to
the bathroom but to disturb me she left it on all night before she
left last week to visit her family for Christmas. She had previously
not been slamming her bedroom door.
For
every 3 minutes Debbie, Keith, Melissa talk,
I, Linda, must have 3 minutes of UNINTERRUPTED talk time or I will
simply leave the room.
I
am tired of years of politely listening to Keith and the new RC's
monologues and getting no time to speak -- Keith and the RCs should
know some at least of my emotional needs, reactions to things going
on in the house, Debbies ridiculous accusation and my needs for some
relatively minor help with my job coach simply use of cellphone
camera which all RCs have to put my most recent, (past year) work on
my art website and possibly help in getting masonite board home from
HOME DEPOT, need van.
Debbie
noticed that except
for Meghan and sometimes Anna B.,
all the RCs can't wait to run out the door and we are no longer given
the required 15 minutes at medication monitoring to see if we are
okay or how things are going, at most, Shatara
does a quick sharp interrogation of what we plan to do that day
and/or the next but she and others RARELY show the type of interest
that Keisha,
Christina, Nikki and
other previous RCs used to show, they write down a minimal amount
show absolutely no interest and run out the door or often like Keith
will spend most of the medication monitoring time playing with their
cellphone for 10 of the 15 minutes allotted. This is contrary to the
services that funders, insurers, HUD
et al think that clients are receiving.
I
will no longer sit at a table, esp. during housemeetings, where I
have no voice and will not participate in Debbie's dramas of
shouting, interrupting, changing
the subject for destractions and accusations based on nothing,
ie "all
I do is sleep downstairs." when
trying to talk about her 4 day psychodrama misusing the RCs at
medication monitoring as judges because I turned off the light twice
in the upstairs hallway, I told Keith to run his finger across the
oil painting I was working on in front of my computer to see how wet
the painting was.
How
could Debbie know after less than a week what I do in my work area?
I will not let Debbie work out her family issues on me.
Debbie
came downstairs once and I was resting on the couch to stretch out my
back after several hours at the computer, and she was having
difficulty with her lie that I turned off the hallway light multiple
time instead of the truth which I tried to establish based on
previous psychodramas with the RCs where Debbie admitted it was only
twice not the multiple times she changed it to with other abuse and
lies that I ran upstairs from my work on computer and painting just
to irritate her by turning off the hallway light.
Mindnumbing,
useless, timewasting dramas over
nothing because Debbie is bored and worried about her health and
needs scapegoats instead of working on her problems.
Keith
said on Friday that there were calls 10 times a day about problems
between me and Debbie, I
said I don't call 10 times a day (I rarely call Bel Pre even during
Debbie's worst tantrums and other destructive games) and
Keith agreed. When Debbie was being friendly after her Thanksgiving
trip to her family, she told me blow by blow of all her complaints
about Cornerstone and Bel Pre and how the place on Braddock Road was
so much better and she told me in detail of the multiple calls she
made to Bel Pre office to complain and then told me Bel Pre staff
told her not to call unless it were important so she started using me
as a Trojan Horse to get staff attention.
Debbie
is the one making all the noise and drama and phone calls over
nothing and trying to drag me into her fight with herself. She is
ruining my reputation and peace of mind while I am quietly trying to
work while Debbie rages and clatters and slams drawers and cabinets
and pots and pans and shouts into her phone so loudly that even when
she is upstairs my job coach and I cannot concentrate on the work.
I
took Debbie twice by cab paid with my
Call n Ride to
Aspen
Hill so
she would know where to cash her check and shop since she said she
did not know how to get off the bus and stated this a number of times
very emotional. Just after the second time I took Debbie to cash the
Dec 8th check and she went shopping with me at Giant and was friendly
but didn't know Debbie two days later - the day before the evening of
Debbie's CHICKEN GREASE hysteria was harrassing my housemate Melissa
Willard to complain about a few dishes in the sink and Melissa
apologized after Keith said both housemates were complaining about 4
bowls and dishes that had been in the sink one day, I had emptied the
dishwasher the night before and was too tired to reload, for years, I
have been doing the dishes in the dishwasher every single day and
unloading it and would clean Beth and sometimes Betty's gloppy dishes
without complaint or comment and Melissa has a number of times
thanked me for loading and unloading the dishwasher while I was doing
it. Melissa said that Debbie was very persuasive and spent a long
time pressuring Melissa Willard to call, Melissa several times since
then has reiterated that she and I are friends and that she is afraid
of Debbie which Melissa has said several times (that she is afraid of
Debbie and that Debbie
is very, very aggressive),
in front of RCs esp Meghan and last Friday to Keith and I state to
the RCs that I am also afraid of Debbie and her aggressive, volatile
behavior, she said to an RC when she first moved in that her friends
and family are always telling her to calm down.
She
is a wild woman, I
want Debbie to leave me alone, stop harrassing me, stop mistaking me
for a 24 hour Rehab Counselor or nursemaid or therapist, stop making
racket all day long, stop disrupting my phone calls and meetings with
my job coach with her shouting and screaming, stop trying to create
all out wars over turning a light out twice, stop ordering me around
and trying to find every way she can to irritate me ie her bedroom
door suddenly wide open with light on, snapping her bedroom door shut
waking me up, trying to deprive me of the nature in back on the deck
with bogus complaints about noise, stop gossiping about me to RCs
during med monitoring and calling 10 times a day to complain about me
and nothing, to stop trying to cause division between me and my
friend/housemate Melissa, and I want my mother's fork back.
Keith
does not know that the current problem is with Debbies open door with
light on at night to live your whole life knowing nothing because you
don't listen - they thought they were speaking english - how can you
solve a problem if you do not listen even a few minutes to know what
the problem is how it changes how Debbie morphs her various
harrassments - is she conscious of her real need and why she does
these things Someone should tell her and prevent her damaging her
housemates
Debbie
keeps changing her games and Keith will not listen talks constantly
so doesn't have a clue and I need myself to figure out what she is
doing when one of her bombs explodes in my face like Keith saying in
morning meds that both of my housemates had called him to complain
the previous day about a few dishes in the sink, I will be half awake
and 4 RCs will start lecturing me on not turning out lights and I
won't have a clue til I piece together that Debbie has been lying and
saying that I was turning off the light multiple times -- I guess she
also complained that I turned off lights downstairs, Melissa doesn't
use the hall light any more at night but often leaves on lights in
the downstairs hall or dining room and esp during the day I turn it
off.
Ana
asked if Debbie needed the downstairs lights on at night and all day
and Debbie said she needed them and was used to also leaving on the
light above the stove, when I mentioned that you need to turn off the
stove light sometime in a 24 hour periof because it gets hot, Debbie
went into usual hysterics that the light in her house never got hot
and she was used to leaving it on and I said okay.
The
least comment however phrased however polite brings on anger, yelling
rudeness hysterics and when I asked her not to get so excited when I
speak, Debbie admitted that her relatives tell her a lot to calm
down, but she still if very volatile and I am afraid of her over the
top reactions if I say anything to her on any subject and she talks
so fast and so angry and so long I feel dizzy and then she will say
to Shatara, "I TOLD HER....." in a very angry voice like
she was talking about her kids, when
Debbie talked so much and so fast and with so much negative emotion I
can not keep track of what she is saying and
just want to get away.
when
I said that for decades people were told to turn off lights to save
the environment and for lower electric bills and that it was
autopilot the RCs got angry and told Keith the wrong thing that the
ongoing light situation is about turning off lights and my worry
about electric bills when
I said that I would try not
to turn off the downstairs lights but it is such a habit it would
take time to build new habit of NOT EVER TURNING OFF LIGHTS SOMEONE
ELSE HAS TURNED ON .... and Ana esp said "you'd
better not do it any more" but
Ana also tried to clarify from Debbie if she really needed so many
lights on 24 hours a day and could possibly turn out some at night.
Ana also told Debbie when Debbie had apparently falsely told Ana that
I was deliberately turning off lights to annoy her that there has
never before been any trouble with me doing things out of spite to
anyone but Debbie kept trying this lie with new RCs until I got very
angry and left the table when she tried it out on Keith when he was
subbing for David at housemeeting, each Rehab Counselor only heard
Debbies dramatic tale with additions of how much worse her bruised
shoulder got every day, though she told Melissa it was in between her
breasts when she ran into the wall or door jamb, the light was not
off for more that a second each time so I have no idea when Debbie
could have bruise her shoulder or between her breasts and Melissa
question how she could run into a wall or door jamb, not a door and
bruise between her breasts?????of my daring to turn off the hall
light twice, which for the first time in my hearing with Keith there
challenged my statement of 2 time and said, "I think it was more
than that multiple time." she couldn't gain much mileage in
attention and sympathy and time from the RCs on the truth and the "I
think" seemed like Debbie wondering how far she could stretch
the truth on this minor, minor event.
,
I said to each Rehab Counselor after it happened that I would never
again turn off a light that I had not turned on but that did not
satisfy Debbie because her game is to create dramas, she is now for 2
weeks started leaving her door wide open, so wide that it is flush
with the wall with bright light in her room where she is sitting up
in bed either reading or playing with cellphone. Debbie has stated
several times that the reason she needs a working tv in the living
room is that she has nervous breakdowns staying in her room all the
time, she has a working tv in her room and could bring it downstairs
in the living room she could also read or play with her phone in our
mostly unused living room with a working lamp next to the dining room
with chandlier lights.
Debbie
needs to be in Fenton House where she will get 24 hour care,
she needs to talk to someone all day, she cannot find something
either useful or entertaining to do with her time.
I
am not trained to be a 24 hour a day Rehab Counselor or therapist and
Debbie is exploiting me by creating situations and fights out of
nothing to gain RCs attention. Debbie
is mostly fighting with herself while I am trying to work and prepare
for my Vocational Rehab counselor meetings and
to paint and prepare my paintings for an opportunity to show at
Rickman Farms stable for the handicapped.
Debbie
calls Keith and Bel Pre 10 times a day, I have not called even once
because Keith Ellis will not listen to me and though he agreed with
me when I said I DO NOT CALL 10 TIMES A DAY, he talked non-stop and
is trying to solve problems based on Debbie's fantasies rather than
letting me say even two sentences, Keith talks nonstop and is not
aware of what he is doing, I
have given up trying to communicate with someone who only does
monologues,
My
therapist wrote Keith
Ellis, Bel Pre Supervisor,
an email, at my request, asking him to listen to me and to put up
RIGHTS and RESPONSIBILITIES for rules governing treatment of
housemates with courtesy either from Cornerstone or HUD, this lack is
a violation of the law, Keith Ellis said David
Minestone is
responsible but I have little hope of obtaining a copy so I will just
send my complaint to HUD.
Core Service House Inspector, Howard,
did not check to see that the HUD and Cornerstone Grievance Policy
and Rights and Responsibilities were posted, I may call him and ask
him why he did not check and why Keith Ellis, despite repeated
requests will not post the Grievance Policy with Comar Law and the
Rights and Responsiblities for Cornerstone
I
am writing a
grievance about Debbie's ongoing harrassment since
the minute she walked in the door about a month ago and will send it
to HUD
with the information that Cornerstone
cannot and will not protect peaceful clients from abusive housemates
and is therefore in violation of their contract with HUD.
Ambushes
me, will think everything is okay then Debbie will very
inappropriately gossip about me to RCs during medication monitoring,
so it will be like a surprise attack, Debbie is supposed to mention
these things at housemeeting and Melissa said once that it is like
Debbie trys to turn one person against another and she is at it again
as of February 20, 2015, Friday
Copy
to Dr. Parveen and Paula Weiss.
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