BV nag

bv nag

STEALING IS BREAKING OF TRUST - THOU SHALT NOT STEAL nor take anything that is thy neighbors - Beth destroys my reputation as well and kills hope.

Rehabilitation Coordinators say their hands are tied in stopping Beth from stealing and abusing housemates, why is St. Luke's House Residential Program hand-tied from stopping a client who has caused anguish to her housemates for many, many years from doing anything at all. Stealing is against the law, if Beth had to face a prosecution for petty theft would she continue. Why does the supervisor of Peppertree/Bel Pre cluster have so few skills in dealing with problems that must come up in other SLH and THRESHOLD residences?? Do other St. Luke's House Cluster supervisors say their hands are tied when a client habitually interferes with the recovery or even being left in peace of other clients? Beth's utter lack of respect for the property or privacy of her housemates which so far has been mostly unchecked by the strangely impotent psychology majors who are given the title REHABILITATION COORDINATORS used to be COUNSELORS but when asked for a copy of their job description years ago, I was told I was not entitled to have a copy, perhaps the DMH and Congressman Van Hollen and the County Council are entitled to Melissa Jacob Clayton and Barrie Friedman's job descriptions and upon investigation and questioning clients whose complaints have been ignored whether or not the requirements of the jobs of BF and MJC are being even minimally met and the destruction of clients emotionally, physically and the talents they have developed wasted by allowing bullying and abuse and blockading of common areas to continue unchecked.

Beth nags almost constantly, not only makes mountain of molehill, most of the time creates the molehill as well.

Bonnie had never mentioned her mother-in law before but recently, when I told her Beth is like living with the MOTHER-IN-LAW FROM THE DEEPEST PIT OF HELL. Bonnie, who is 70 years old immediately went into the pain of what the archetypal mother-in-law abusing power causes - Bonnie said before her son was born her mother-in-law would call telling her how to raise him and that when her husband would leave for work, her mother-in-law would call and abuse and belittle Bonnie for hours who did not want to cause trouble with a new marriage and baby on the way but finally refused to take calls from her mother-in-law.

The next time we talked when I mentioned it, Bonnie started to talk about the pain of her mother-in-laws abuse, then was so upset after 50 years, said I can't talk about it and I said how would you have liked to live 24/7 with your mother-in-law in the same house and Bonnie said very seriously, "I don't think I would have made it." We were talking about my difficulty in doing any of my art except on the computer, Bonnie asked if I were having problems with my eyes as I did with the Sphenoidal Sinus Infection years ago and I said no but I am frozen in fear by what Beth will say or do to me next and always having to be on guard and come up with an instanteous response to her shoving toenail clippers in my eye when I am trying to concentrate on work, or incessant 8-12 talking with her boyfriend that she will not take upstairs because she wants to monopolize the kitchen and force me to be an audience to her and Dennis' fights, partying, kiss and make up hour after hour after hour day after day after day after week after month how can you convey this to another person who has not experienced it??

Not often mentioned but there was a Washington Post article saying not all women do this there are true victims who have not provoked their boyfriends or husbands - not to blame women for their own abuse but women are generally more articulate than men and nagging belittling and berating a man you are jeopardizing your physical safety and need to think about that and consider if what you get from nagging is worth the risk. Why do (mostly) women nag? IT IS AN ACT OF EXTREME AGGRESSION out of unhappiness, women wanting their will to be done instead of considering others needs and trying to compromise and work at win/win situations, power urge satisfaction - reliving childhood issues - Beth may have been a victim in her family or from others but she is not my victim though I haven't until recently responded to her outrageous provocations, like the Gulf of Tonkin incident Beth pretends I am the aggressor and since she can tell a somewhat amusing tale or is more aggressive in demanding audiences for her lies the medication monitoring and up until recently housemeetings are a joke of an audience for Beth's sick dramas which all these psychology majors feed into maybe because it is easier and less time consuming and Beth and Gerda had immensely strong wills to get their own way and use everyone they can in their perpetual boring cycle of drama instead of doing something useful with their lives which is rarely encouraged by RCs but they eat up Beth's incessant dramatics.

All are true of Beth and what I have most marked is Beth's refusal to consider any solutions, partial solutions win/win situations because her CONSTANT ACTS OF EXTREME HOSTILITY AND NAGGING IS HER WHOLE LIFE - she doesn't want to be regimented, she hates schedules, or crying or getting huffy, or talking to herself angrily or stalking off into kitchen - so many useless dramas and the RCs allow her to do it and it is obvious that possible real solutions are not allowed by MJC in the gossip fests she calls team meetings and MJC's utter incompetence shows and destroys lives of clients. Until recently when I finally said and was very serious about writing grievance as best I could to Congressman Van Hollen and the County Council and McClatchy newspapers, MJC has shown no signs of wanting grow into her job but like Barrie just to order people around from Mt. Olympus where consulting the people affected so called clients wouldn't occur to her and if it did she would not consider any ideas from the plebs to be worth a minute of her time.

Nagging is an act of extreme aggression particularly if you live with someone 24/7 and can't get away and the nagging person is deliberately provoking tears of rage and has done it all her life - Beth's 50 some years of disgustingly immoral actions and then she hides behind an"I'm a helpless little baby." "I'm mentally ill, what do you expect." if you try to discuss it dispassionately with her how she is hurting you every day.

Dennis' extreme dependence did not come out of nowhere - Beth loves it when he finally acts out pushing a coffee table against her knees brusing them or the butcher knife Beth can gain an audience to feel sorry for her after provoking this response - see the way Yoko Ono destroyed John Lennon - how do I know? because I have experienced Beth's nagging, lies, vicious verbal attacks and dirty tricks and thefts and abuse and insults every day for a year and a half, some of it witnessed by medication monitoring REHABILITATION COORDINATORS who have the strangest responses to clear-cut abuse - when they first start have normal response then become stepford wives and Dr. Parveen and Paula Weiss and Megan have normal responses - need an investigator from DMH and NAMI to see if they agree with the hard but not impossible to verify decisions and actions and mostly INACTION by Melissa Jacob Clayon and her "team" of yes-women.

Beth punched holes in the wall I had put up against her evil provacations which took me so much energy to maintain that I could not do my art or even think wondering when and how Beth would attack me next. - Ask Kimberly and Waterside Cluster RCs and clients what Beth did to them in three weeks to provoke tears of rage.

No one to help stop this abuse, though Beth is known for stealing, she denies stealing my art supplies, purple jacket, drinking glass, etc. etc and i just have to take the lose, since despite Beth's long history of stealing and throwing away mostly food items, since I shared my food with her she knew she could only hurt me by taking other things, esp. art supplies that i am currently working with, come back and they are gone, Beth denies it and so it goes on and on and on. Christina said we could go through the trash next time my art supplies go missing, haven't felt like clawing through the trash for the two missing medium size cooking pots.

I could expect more help, concern and interest from a stranger I stopped on the street than the 50 odd medication meetings - if the stranger walked away refusing to listen it would be no different from what these REHABILITATION COORDINATORS HAVE DONE TO ME LEAVING ME HOLDING THE 50 YEAR OLD SPOILED BRAT BABY WHEN SHE ISN'T PLAYING THE MOTHER-IN-LAW FROM HELL.

AFTER WATERSIDE CLUSTER DUMPED THE FOUNDLING BACK ON MY FRONT PORCH WERE NOT ABOUT TO LET MELISSA JACOB CLAYTON DUMP HER PROBLEM CHILD ON THEM AND DESTROY THE CHANCES OF CLIENTS INTERESTED IN WORKING ON RECOVER OR CAUSING RCS TO QUIT FROM Beth'S SKILLED ABUSE - CHRISTINA, IN ONE OF MJC'S DISASTEROUS DECISIONS IN HER TEAM MEETING, THROUGH CHRISTINA, MJC TOLD ME BEL PRE CLIENTS WERE SUPPOSED TO BE INDEPENDENT SO IT WAS INCUMBENT ON ME TO TALK TO Beth AND WORK OUT PROBLEMS.

THIS IS SO OUTRAGEOUS I WILL DIRECT THE MENTAL HEALTH INVESTIGATOR TO WATERSIDE CLUSTER RC SUPERVISOR TO FIND OUT WHAT Beth DID TO CAUSE TEARS OF RAGE AND UNANNOUNCED AND UNCEREMONIOUS DUMPING OF Beth BACK ON OUR DOORSTEP WITH THE RC WHO DELIVERED Beth BACK TO LOOK AS FURIOUS AS ANYONE I HAVE EVER SEEN IN MY LIFE AND I AM SUPPOSED TO DEAL WITH Beth ALONE??

I HAVE BEEN ALL ALONG BUT THIS WAS MJC'S RESPONSE IN HER USUAL PASS-THE-BUCK STYLE - mjc could consult with experienced therapists like Paula instead of going with any hare-brained idea that occurrs to her and causes endless anguish and permanent damage to the people she is supposed to be and getting a supervisor's salary to help not hurt by her unfathomable decisions and mostly inaction.

SINCE THE PEPPERTREE/BEL PRE SUPERVISOR AND HER MANAGER BELIEVE IN A WEIRD FAVORITISM AND WILL DO NOTHING TO PROTECT CLIENTS FROM SEVERE EMOTIONAL ABUSE, IN ORDER TO STOP Beth VONIEFF FROM CONTINUING TO DESTROY ME AS A PERSON MUST GO TO MY CONGRESSMAN AND THE COUNTY COUNCIL AND ASK THEM TO OVERSEE A THOROUGH INVESTIGATION BY THE DEPT. OF MENTAL HEALTH INTO HOW MANY PEOPLE MJC AND BF HAVE ALLOWED TO BE DESTROYED BY NOT DOING GRIEVANCE MEETINGS TO HEAD OFF THE ABUSE BECOMING PHYSICAL AND LOOK INTO SUSAN WILKOFF REFUSING TO DO HER JOB BY NOT CALLING BACK FOR 3 YEARS REQUESTS IN HER PERVIEW FOR COMAR NOTES, ADDENDUMS TO GROSSLY FAULTY TREATMENT PLANS THAT ARE REALLY CHARACTER ASSASSINATIONS AND REFUSAL TO HELP CLIENTS WORD GRIEVANCES AS WAS REQUIRED BY THE PREVIOUS ST. LUKE'S HOUSE GRIEVANCE POLICY WHICH IS A JOKE AND A LIE - MS. WILCOFF IS NOT REQUIRED TO HELP CLIENTS UNDERT THE THRESHOLD UNITED GRIEVANCE POLICY SO I GUESS MS WILCOFF GETS A FREE PASS FROM ALL THE SUFFERING SHE CAUSED BY STEADFASTLY REFUSING TO DO THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF HER JOB.

CHEATING CLIENTS, THE FUNDERS INCLUDING THE GOVERNMENT AND MENTAL HEALTH IN GENERAL BY ALLOWING CLIENTS LIKE Gerda TO SCREAM THE NEIGHBORHOOD DOWN AND CLIENTS WITH SKILLS THEY HAVE DEVELOPED OVER YEARS TO BE TERRORIZED AND ABUSED EMOTIONALLY BY AGGRESSIVE CLIENTS LIKE Gerda SEJOUR AND Beth VONIEFF - MOSTLY BF AND MJC TURN THEIR HEAD FROM THE ABUSE AND REQUIRE THEIR REHABILITATION COORDINATORS TO DO THE SAME. WOULD GET MORE CONCERN FROM A STRANGER I STOPPED IN THE STREET THAT FROM THE TWICE DAILY MEDICATION MONITORING VISITS BY RCS who don't care and give off the wall answers to the grossest most dangerous kind of abuse and carelessness.

mjc apparently sees clients as pit bulls or fighting cock and puts us in the ring to let darwinism take place - and wants the rcs to see us as non-human too and yet responsible for our fate with no help from people being paid to make sure one client is not bullying, threatening or blocking common access area of privately and government funded housing - no sense of fairness - no sense at all, people rcs who wasted time and money on training in psychology which they are not allowed to use or else all that training left them clueless in the face of Gerda and Beth's sibling rivalry acts which cause such immense damage which these psychology majors are apparently too DENSE TO SEE OR INTIMIDATED TO DO ANYTHING ABOUT. At least MJC doesn't have the Rehabilitation Coordinators put metal spurs on like they do fighting cock.

nicole said when she left that the new threshold people had been on the job less than a year "FRESH MEAT FOR YOU ALL." are the last word Nicole Hester spoke to me before leaving - Beth and Gerda have been the aggressors 100% of the time

Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor

which is not talking about a single lie but a group of lies to weave a web or set a snare for innocent human beings in an important and usually legal context - i have only occasionally tried to point out Beth and Gerda's aggression and have rarely responded to provocations which both Beth and Gerda complained as "ignoring" them because i would walk away from their insults about my butt among other things and they were trying to get the parent figure rcs to force me into shouting dysfunction games/relationship why do not psychology majors know this and refuse to feed into the time-wasting emotion-wasting talent-wasting money-wasting games - mjc must rule with an iron hand because she does not solicit or accept any ideas that might help ameliorate these situations ideas from her yes-women and clients but comes up with weird ass ideas and forces rcs to implement them AND THEY ARE AN ENDLESS DISASTER DESTROYING CLIENTS INCLUDING AGRESSOR CLIENTS LIKE Beth VONIEFF AND Gerda SEJOUR BY LETTING THEM RUN WILD IN THE WORST SIDE OF THEIR NATURE INSTEAD OF THE MORE TIME CONSUMING EFFORTS TO GET THEM TO DO SOMETHING MORE WITH THEIR DAYS THAN STALK AND LIE AND SET SNARES FOR HOUSEMATES WHOM THEY HAVE BEEN GIVEN A FREE HAND TO ABUSE AND WIN ENDLESS SYMBOLIC VICTORIES OVER THEIR MORE FAVORED CHILD AND THEREFORE SUCCESSFUL SIBLINGS - thereby destroying clients who want to recover and contribute something positive. MJC and BF have been in dereliction of duty for a long time, most important part of their job, client safety and neighbors safety they have "no time for" CLIENTS IN IMMEDIATE DANGER BECAUSE OF hundreds of clients but if some clients are in immediate danger from one client with voices threatening another client and spraying lysol in food they NEED TO MAKE TIME.

There are experienced managers and supervisors from the layoffs at Threshold and other places who could step into Melissa Jacob Clayton and Barrie Friedman's jobs who could may find the time to put together and effective team to head off some of these problems and who would MAKE THE TIME IF A CLIENT IS BEING THREATENED BY ANOTHER CLIENT WITH A HISTORY OF VERBALLY ABUSING OTHER CLIENTS WHO HAS BEEN SCREAMING FOR MONTHS DURING MEDICATION MONITORING AND WHO WROTE ABOUT HER VIOLENCE IN A STORY CALLED "SISTERS" WHICH Gerda TRIED TO GET EVERYONE TO READ AND PROOF-READ FOR HER AND WHICH WAS A CRY FOR HELP. CARYN ZANER AND MEGAN STARTED PROOFING IT UNTIL IT GOT INCOHERENT IN THE SANDRA STALKING OF UNCLE VINCENT - Gerda TOLD ME SHE WAS SANDRA AND NO ONE WOULD LISTEN WHEN I BEGGED THE VISITING MEDICATION MONITORING REHABILITATION COORDINATORS TO HELP Gerda WHEN SHE WAS SCREAMING UPSTAIRS FOR MONTHS AND REFUSING TO COME DOWN.

Gerda used to tell me how she acted when she got really sick, as she was screaming upstairs tried to tell the RCs but they ignored me or cut me off when I tried to tell them so Gerda continued stalking me all over the house, and yelling and cursing outside the door to the basement where I was trying to get away from her screaming and stomping all over the house in her boot or thick, heavy hard plastic clogs.

CARYN ZANER SAID after she quit and was too bitter to stay the second week Caryn said she might stay, JUST BEFORE SHE LEFT WITH Gerda SCREAMING UPSTAIRS the whole time, that she had some friends who always complained that a housemate would spend a half hour in the bathroom every morning and sound like Felix Unger of the Odd Couple, honking and clearing his sinuses, once she crashed with them and was awoken by this man making the noises her friends said and she indicated Gerda upstairs screaming at the top of her lungs and said for a short time it is nothing but if I had to listen to it all day long that would be different.

I used to think the REHABILITATION COORDINATORS only had to listen to Gerda screaming at the top of her lungs to her imaginary voices for 15 minutes while Peggy and I AND THE NEIGHBORS had to listen to it for hour after hour - day after day. Why didn't anyone do anything to help Gerda and the rest of us? MJC runs her cluster like a very dysfunctional family and whatever her motivation for doing these strange things enough can be investigated and verified. The clients at St. Luke's Threshold United deserve much better than this malign neglect and a few disasterous decision in the few cases MJC is proactive in dealing with problems that her job description must include but she neglects to the suffering of the people she is being paid to serve.

Melissa Willard asked why I didn't call 911 and a few times I almost did but Gerda may have come down, been charming, then after the police left started screaming again like she used to do in charming RCs during med meetings but the minute the door shut started talking to herself and gearing up for screaming. Don't know why the neighbors never called 911, they voted with their feet and left. Some of the looks given me by the neighbors on the right from the time I moved in, never even said Hello, they must have thought I was the one doing the screaming but when I was outside having a cigarette Gerda would be screaming sound carrying out the back-facing bedroom and echoing down the corridor of trees and fence.

MJC starving Beth by HAVING THE RCs illegally confiscating Beth's.r SNAP card would not have happened if MJC had a coherent plan with all members of HER TEAM working in concert to stop the abuse of one client by another instead of THAT IS JUST Gerda BEING Gerda as if mjc believed Gerda's claims to be Jehovah God and therefore beyond house rules, SLH rules OR ANY RULES OF HUMAN DECENCY FOR YEARS, FOR YEARS MS. JACOB COULD HAVE FOUND TIME THERE WAS A BUILD UP EVEN BEFORE I CAME TO Gerda'S DESPAIR AT TRYING TO KILL HOUSEMATES HER WRITING her short novel SISTERS WHICH PAULA HAD DOWNLOADED MY WRITING ON Gerda'S SISTERS NOVEL BUT MJC HAD SNIDELY MARGINALIZED PAULA WEISS, WHO CARES ABOUT CLIENTS AND THAT WAS APPARENT WHEN MJC PUT BLOCKADES FOR A YEAR AGAINST MY SEEING OR TALKING TO WHAT WAS THEN THE TEAM THERAPIST.

What Gossips Do.

D.H. Lawrence lost a lot of friends including wealthy, influential friends by using them as characters in his novels and giving them very negative characteristics. Someone wrote that DHL had a trick of being able to capture in words the outward aspect of his acquaintances, their gestures, appearance and putting "an ectoplasm of his own creation." in this outward description of them. In WOMEN IN LOVE, he gave the character Ursala, based on his then new wife, Frieda, all her good characteristics - to her delight and scattered her bad characteristics among the other female characters.

This is what gossips do. Why was I criticized in Melissa Jacob Clayton's Peppertree "TEAM" meetings for never going to Southport when I at that time went more often than Gerda who hardly ever went but Gerda's not going to Life Skills was ignored?