February
20, 2015, Friday
Debbie
Davis Complaints
Debbie's
venting to me numerous times a day on
her anger at Keith, Shatara, etc. Debbie tells me endless and angrily
about her multiple daily phone calls to Nicole Burke, Social
Security, not being given right amount on checks, calls to Terri
Reid, numerous
daily calls to many people,
Debbie telling me again and again she refuses to see therapist or go
to AA or do other things requested because of the expense of buses
but will not get a $10.50 money order for the cab coupons she was
recently granted.not being allowed to visit her family on weekends
for various reasons including Keith Ellis, Debbie says mistakenly
saying she did not get 17 visits or owes $2,000 and must pay before
Debbie can move anywhere else, etc. etc. etc. Takes up a
considerable amount of my limited energy and my time fast talking
complaints like a strong wind or hurricane, never listens to me, I
have finally stopped looking at her when she talks on and on and on
very angrily and look away or down or leave the room/
Anna
B.,
my RC said two weeks ago that it is good to be able to vent to
housemates but that I am not expected to be an RC to Debbie. I say
again that I
am not a 24 hour live in therapist, or housemother, or Rehab
Counselor and Debbie takes severe advantage of me every day several
times a day including
when I am trying to concentrate on cooking or art work, she runs down
when she hears me in the kitchen, to jabber and natter and complain
and talk fast with never-ending complaints.
I
am afraid of burning myself with Debbie's manic talking in kitchen
when I am trying to concentrate on making a meal. For the first time
I lost the $10.50 money order for cab coupons because I again took
Debbie grocery shopping twice last week because of the cold and
because of her complaints about the cost of getting there. Since she
now has her own cab coupons if she will get the money order, I need
to go shopping on my own so I can hear myself think without Debbie
talking endlessly and I forget some of the things I meant to buy or
can't concentrate on my list and the various choices because of
jabbering in my ear and refusing to listen to me ever, like trying to
stop a runaway train to get her to stop nonstop talking - I get very
confused an have to lie down and occasionally she still bursts into
my bedroom when I am trying to rest to tell me how angry she is with
Shatara and if I feel better and leave my room, never know if Debbie
will jump on me again to listen to her endless complaints and anger.
I
feel drained by Debbie every day some of that energy could go into
cleaning. She
must stop exploiting me as a listener to her excited, angry talk,
talk, talk, talk, talk. Also her loud talking on her cellphone in
the next room when I am trying to sleep and the strange loud noise
when she opens or shuts her door that sound like the door wood has
swollen or that she is moving furniture. Neither with Beth or Betty
have I every heart this loud noise before though I used to have a
bedroom door in an apartment that made this terrible noise when the
weather changed and my brother thought I was slamming the lightweight
door which would have been impossible, instead, I was using all my
strength to open it. Before this scraping noise, Debbie often shuts
her bedroom door at night with a sharp movement like a slamming from
a short distance that wakes me up or makes me jump.
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Tired
of living with people who are jealous ,not essentially of my art, but
the fact that I have something I find interesting to do. Debbie
talks constantly of how bored she is, that there is nothing on TV and
she is bored but she refuses to consider volunteer or other work to
pay for buses and/or Call and Ride and states repeatedly that she
hates things like arts and crafts and Debbie angrily yells at me that
Shatara tries to make her see doctors, go to AA, see therapist and
she, Debbie is not going to do it. --now
that is boring --to
be a captive audience to an angry person who says
the same thing again and again several times a day, every day she is
here.
I
will begin walking away from now on when she tries to make me her
audience for her angry dramatics.
Now
Debbie
is Troublemaking because
she is bored and jealous of someone who is not bored but has work
that fascinates them and who finds peace of mind which Debbie could
also if she tried concentrating on the right things, RCs and Keith
should not feed into Debbie's TROUBLEMAKING but force Debbie to at
least concentrate
on finding solutions not
creating dramas --- time-wasting and energy wasting.
-----
I
asked Meghan and Debbie the evening
of February 20, Friday when I was ambushed again by Debbie
inappropriately using medication monitoring for sudden complaints
that she has not talked to me about and Debbie refuses to say
anything to David when we do have housemeetings because, as with most
people, Debbie doesn't like him and states she will not say anything
to him about problems.
Monday
is not a good day for housemeeting and we need to find another
because Anna is most often free to take me to doctors appts and my
job coach and I keep trying to obtain a Reboot laptop but I have to
call Monday to make sure they have one, REBOOT is only open two
afternoons a week and Vanessa's schedule won't let her go on
Wednesday but Debbie has had plently of chance to mention it to David
but she prefers to entice RCs into misusing medication monitoring for
ambush and is trying again to turn Melissa and me against each other,
Melissa told me last time that she did not want to call Keith but
Debbie kept at her and that Debbie is very convincing.
I
REQUESTED THAT DEBBIE AND MELISSA WRITE DOWN THE SPECIFICS OF THE
BOGUS COMPLAINT THAT I DO NOT CLEAN UP AFTER MYSELF IN THE KITCHEN
AND THE SPECIFICS OF WHAT THEY FIND OBJECTIONABLE IN MY USE OF THE
BASEMENT FOR MY WORKSPACE FOR MY ART.
When
I came downstairs in the evening, half asleep, Debbie and Melissa
were gossiping about the basement and Meghan
was there with a new person that I
was not introduced to because
Meghan then the other two went into a rapid ambush attack
INAPPROPRIATE AT MEDICATION MONITORING, Debbie waits a while then
pulls an ambush when my guard is down - new person suggested having
an agenda when Meghan said she didn't know how many time we had met
with Nicole Burke and no one would say anything, I said we met ONCE
with Nicole, I called Nicole twice and Debbie as she reported to me
has called Nicole an uncountable number of times-
I
said an agenda is a good idea but instead of David that this was
serious enough for Debbie and I to meet to talk it over with our RCs
present, Debbie hated Shatara and screamed at her and me after
Shatara left and I would be very confused and upset at Debbie's
screaming muddled accounts of what Shatara was asking her to do to
get out of the house, work, go to doctors and Bel Pre events etc.
Shatara is now on medical leave and at medication meetings Debbie
seems to have a good relationship with Courtney who will probably be
Debbie's interim RC.
I
may need to go on medical leave to Fenton if Debbie doesn't stop
screaming at me when she is angry at Keith, etc etc, I am not hired
help for Debbie 24/7, someone needs to explain to her appropriate
treatment of HOUSEMATES. I am tired and
sick from
hearing about Debbie's endless complaints and anger.
I
will be asking Paula, my therapist and Dr. Parveen my psychiatrist to
protect me from any further ambushes by letting me pack out meds
instead of being forced to have 60 to 62 meetings a month with RCs
who show no interest in me or my art beyond quickly writing down what
I did that day.
Anna
B., my
RC, requested that when I was working for 6 months to have a CatScan
of my liver and right kidney not to mention it in from of Melissa at
medication monitoring because it upsets Melissa and she is sensitive.
I am sensitive too and am forced to listed to Melissa' s depression
other problems and blow by blow accounts of Debbie's numerous
physical problems.
HAS
ANYONE EVERY REQUESTED THAT DEBBIE NOT MENTION HER PHYSICAL
COMPLAINTS AT MEDICATION MONITORING???
-
WHAT PURPOSE IS THERE FOR ME TO BE THERE IF
I AM NOT ALLOWED TO TALK ABOUT MY
PROBLEMS???
SEVERAL
YEARS OF THIS AT THE REQUIRED 17 MEETINGS A MONTH IS ENOUGH!!!! 60
MEETINGS A MONTH
IS
TOO MUCH - I want to start packing out again, I had been packing out
for two years and I believe requiring me in September 2014 to be at
60 meetings a month to get my meds instead of the 17 visits that the
RCs are paid for
was retribution for my contacting Susan Wilkoff, Congressman Murphy
and the County Council about
the horrible things that Eric
Gordon did
to me on August 8, 2014 when I was pushed by Keith
Ellis who
inappropriatedly used the 17 medication meetings to badger me
endlessly about attending Eric's class though I told him what had
happened the previous year and that I was afraid to attend Eric's
class after he had tried to punch me the previous year when Christina
took 3 months to push me into a meeting with
Eric.
In
WRITING
SPECIFICS OF
DEBBIE AND MELISSA'S COMPLAINT ABOUT MY SUPPOSEDLY "NOT CLEANING
UP AFTER MYSELF IN THE KITCHEN."
If
Debbie is so upset about my housekeeping or other things, she needs
to put it in writing AND OWN IT - not nasty gossip behind my back and
ambushes --because
from the first when I would try to defend myself Debbie would say
never mind, now she says I get so upset when confronted
INAPPROPRIATEDLY AND SUDDENLY in MEDICATION MONITORING MEETINGS
instead of House Meetings -- this is a ploy to cause trouble and not
be held responsible and her accusations are tissue thin. If she is
so upset, Debbie must write down SPECIFICS where it can be clearly
seen that most of her complaints are bogus and troublemaking. I have
a right to defend myself and to talk about what I am trying to do in
soaking dishes etc. no more excuses DEBBIE MUST WRITE DOWN ANY
ACCUSATIONS and read or listen to MY response and the RCs need to
quit feeding into Debbie's boredom games of false accusation and
trying to turn my housemate Melissa and I against each other instead
of Debbie doing something useful with her time that she is so bored
with, most people would be glad to have extra time and not complain
endlessly about being bored.
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I
am the only one who cleans out the lint filter in the dryer and
when I try to talk about it or show Melissa or Debbie how to do it,
when I have to clean out the filter for the upteenth time since they
NEVER CLEAN IT, they shut off, ignore me, start talking about
something else though Gus, the House Inspector and the signs up on
the wall say that "THE LINT FILTER MUST BE CLEANED EVERY TIME
YOU DRY CLOTHES BECAUSE
IT CAN START A FIRE."
Whenever
I try to talk about fire hazards I get this ignore me turn off
response. I NEVER criticise the way Melissa does things because she
gets so upset if I insist she doesn't ignore me which
I only do when it is a fire hazard like
the chicken grease that falls in the bottom of the oven after Melissa
cooks alot of chicken placing it on the shallow cookie sheet and the
chicken grease falls in the bottom of the oven, the fire alarm used
to go off every time that Melissa cooked chicken from previous times
she had left the overflow chicken grease and Melissa would tell me
that she opens the window when baking chicken so the fire alarm
wouldn't go off.
I
did not realize the reason until
Debbie told me the
oven grill caught fire when
Debbie tried to bake something and showed me the
blackened grill at the bottom of the oven and
Gus had to turn off the oven and buy a replacement grill. I think
Melissa was in the hospital when the oven caught fire, I told Melissa
yesterday when she was heating the oven to cook alot of chicken in on
the cookie sheet that Melissa needs to cook less chicken at one time
or else by a deeper pan but Melissa was upset, didn't listen don't
know how much I was able to say because Melissa turned and walked
away and did not appear to be listening.
Since
Debbie complained to Keith about supposed dirty dishes on sideboard
about a week ago, Melissa and Debbie have been putting dirty dishes
in the dishwasher along with the clean ones to be put back on the
shelf, it is difficult when more than one person is in charge of the
dishwasher, also very,
very greasy frying pans and cookie sheets have
been placed in the dishwasher, the grease
will coat the other dishes during washing and the whole cycle will
need to be done again,
---that
is why I
soak some of the dishes and
instead of leaving in sink have been putting on the sideboard near
the dishwashing rack but even that gives Debbie a bogus reason for
her sudden ambush complaints -- jars that are used for storing
leftovers like beans are still dirty after going through wash cycle 4
times so I decided to soak them ON THE SIDEBOARD NOT IN THE SINK
WHICH KEITH SAID MUST BE EMPTY AT ALL TIMES
but
Debbie again found something to complain about,
if
I had been allowed to soak the jars since there is no bottle washer
at the beginning when Debbie raised a ruckus a week ago with Keith
egging her on, I would not have to have put them through the cycle 4
times only
to have them stilled stained and
I don't have many jars that size for storing opened cans of beans
which I am supposed to eat for protein, now I
have had to soak for a couple of days trying
to reach in as far as I can with the sponge because Debbie and Keith
would not let me soak them in the sink to begin with ....!!!!!
--I
don't mind filling and unloading the dishwasher but the grease should
be soaked off the pans in hot water and dishwashing liquid and spoons
with oatmeal on them should be rinsed thoroughly before
placing in dishwasher. The food left on dishes and silverware often
are not cleaned by the cycle and are harder than ever to get them off
after the food bits or larger are soldered onto dishes, silverware
glassware after the intense heat of dishwasher to sterilize them.
Gerta,
Peggy, Melissa and Beth would put dirty dishes into the cupboard
thinking they were clean or put dirty dishes into dishwasher with
clean dishes waiting to be put back on shelf. Or would handwash
dishes and silverware and put them on shelf and they were often still
so dirty after the handwashing not only not sterilized but disgusting
bits of food or food disolved into black waterstain puddles. Need
camera to show how disgusting.
If
I am responsible for loading and unloading dishwasher EVERY DAY , so
these things don't happen, possibly Debbie could take out the trash
twice a week since I have a problem with the concrete stairs and
carrying heavy things.
Spoons
and forks are just thrown in by Melissa and Debbie and not pushed
down into the slot for silverware which
can be a severe fire hazard.
When we moved into a new apartment, a rubber spactular slipped down
onto the grill at bottom of dishwasher and caught fire, a regular
spatula fell down years later and melted
onto the grill and had to pull and pull to get it off the grill,
Gerta started the dishwasher and left the house and when I went
upstairs I smelled something like diesel fuel, when I opened the
dishwasher a regular spoon with plastic handle had fallen onto the
grill at bottom of diswasher and the metal part of the spoon had
fallen off and the plastic handle was almost completely melted, Gerda
was unconcerned and
still threw the silverware in sideways instead of pushing into slots
as
were the RCs when I tried to stress how dangerous it was and that
fire safety in the kitchen needs to be taught because
there are some common accidents that can be fatal and not everyone
has been taught things they need to know about kitchen safety esp.
with dishwasher and stovetop and oven.
I
told Keith yesterday morning to
take a picture with his cellphone of the
kitchen and kitchen table that he bogusly claimed were a mess and
Keith refused.
I
have listened to Debbie enough for 10 years I don't want to hear
anymore outside of med monitoring and even there she needs to stop
monopolizing time with endless complaints.
Keith
always, always talks non-stop every second he is in house the most
disasterous quality in a supervisor is the inability to listen.
If
there were a photo of my room it would be clearly seen that my bed is
on the floor, I
need
a bedframe at
least so that I do not have to pile quilt to make the bed soft enough
to sleep
I have mentioned the need for a beframe before and possibly a softer
mattress. Always ignored even if I do manage to very quickly say a
few words.
I
have told Keith that I need Paula to translate since he won't listen
or gives weird solutions to problems he hasn't listened to.d
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Woe
to you scribes and pharisees, hypocrites all, you strain at a gnat
and swallow a camel, you do not go in yourselves nor do you allow
others to enter, blind guides. Jesus New Testament
You
make clean the outside of the cup but not the inside, you are like
whited sepulchres all clean and fair without but within full dead
mens bones and all corruptions Did He who made the outside of the cup
not make the inside also,
God
hates high looks of arrogance, their day is coming.
Cast
not your pearls before swine.
God
is bigger than any mountain
And
bigger than all my fears
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